Poor communication kills off many relationships. When people stop
sharing, stop talking about things important to them, it damages
intimacy. Communication is actually a form of intimacy. Bad
communication is often the culprit to end relationships.
If this was involved in ending your relationship, there are some things
you can do to get your ex back. You need to demonstrate that you can be
a good listener and communicator.
This isn't difficult. You can start by calling your ex and sharing
yourself honestly. Tell them what it feels like to be without them. Tell
them what is in your heart. Be vulnerable and honest. It can touch their
heart.
Next, focus on being a good listener. Ask them some questions. Get them
to open up. You might say "how do you feel about how I treated you?"
There are many ways to be a good listener. One is to be quiet and
listen. So let them take all the time they need to think about your
question and formulate up and answer. Don't fill the empty space with
empty chatter.
Aim to be a good listener and make your ex feel heard and understood.
Say things like "I'm following you, please continue..." Then your ex may
really open up, which can be crucial to getting them back with you.
Another important listening skill is to not justify or defend yourself
while your ex is telling you how you made them feel. Don't argue,
attack, or defend. Listen until they are done, make them feel heard, and
at the end, if appropriate, apologize for any way you wronged your mate.
There's more to it, but just these few pointers are a great start. If
your ex feels you are becoming a good listener, they may see you in a
new light. This can open up their heart and make room for them to
reconsider being with you.
It isn't the ONLY thing that
will get them back, but it can start to change how they think about you.
You want them noticing you are a good listener.
Getting Your Ex Back Action Steps:
Write out how you'd ask your ex
to open up and talk about their feelings.
Make a note to yourself to not
argue or defend yourself.
Call and try it out!
There is obviously a ton more to this, but learning some proven steps can make a big difference in
getting your ex back fast. It can help you get them back in hours
instead of waiting months and hoping they will get over it eventually!
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