When we want to get our ex back, we all tend to
think the same kind of things. We've got to promise them we'll change,
we've got to do some fast talking, we've got to apologize fifty times.
One powerful method to get your ex back though, is to listen, not do all
the talking. Most likely, your ex broke up with you because you wronged
them in some way. Maybe you were too needy or too jealous.
As time went on, because of whatever you did, your ex's heart began to
fill up with negative emotions towards you. That's why they dumped you.
Their heart is now full of these bad feelings.
To get them back, you've got to help them to replace the negative
emotions with positive ones. You've got to help them to release and
resolve the negative feelings.
When we've broken up with a loved one and want them back, we want it to
happen fast. 15 minutes would be good, and it can happen. We don't want
it to take weeks or months as we try to let time heal their wounds.
You don't need to wait weeks. Often you can get your ex back in just a
day or two. Sometimes you can get your ex back in just minutes. To do
this, you need to understand one crucial issue.
You broke up because something emotional happened for your ex. Their
positive feelings about you have been replaced with negative ones, like
anger or betrayal or broken trust. They broke up with you because
negative emotions now cover over the positive ones.
To get your ex back fast - to get them back at all - you need to help
them to release the bad feelings filling their heart. When you can do
that, you can get your ex back sometimes in as little as 30 minutes or
less.
How in the heck can you, who they will barely talk to, help them to
release their bad feelings towards you? There are several steps to help
you accomplish this, but a crucial step you already know. It's called
venting, getting things off your chest.
What you have to do is help them to vent. Let them get these feelings
about you off their chest. So if you cheated on them, for example, they
are feeling betrayed, hurt, ashamed. That's what fills their heart now.
You've got to get them to vent, to empty their cup, to tell you how they
feel about what you did. You don't argue, you don't defend yourself, you
get them to talk and tell you what they think of you.
As they do this, they are releasing these feelings. They are venting the
emotional charge. They are beginning to heal. They have to do this
before your apology can be accepted. They have no room in their heart to
take you back until they have released most of the emotional pressure of
their negative feelings about what you did.
There is a whole art and science to getting your ex to vent in a way
that is effective, but if you can get your ex to vent their negative
feelings you can often help them make room in their heart to give you a
second chance. This can happen within 15 minutes, sometimes, depending
on what happened and how you go about reconnecting. There's more to
this, but you don't need to wait weeks or months to get your ex back if
you have a powerful reconnect strategy.
Getting Your Ex Back Action Steps:
Write out how you'd ask your ex
to open up and talk about their feelings.
What would you say? What
are two different ways to get someone to say how they are feelings?
How can you avoid arguing and
defending yourself as they talk?
Call and try it out!
There is obviously a ton more to this, but learning some proven steps can make a big difference in
getting your ex back fast. It can help you get them back in hours
instead of waiting months and hoping they will get over it eventually!
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