Is it possible to get your ex
back as a lover with just one phone call? Do you need to wait 30 days or
more hoping they will forgive you, or can you vastly speed up the
process? Well, if you use emotional intelligence to help your ex release
their bad feelings and get to forgiveness, you can start to get them
back with one phone call.
Before you even pick up the phone, remind yourself not to start by
saying I'm sorry. This is a common mistake people making, apologizing
over and over hoping their ex will understand and take them back. But if
an apology was going to work, you'd probably already be back together.
To get your ex back beginning with just one phone call, don't start with
an apology!
Instead of apologizing, do something radical instead on your phone call.
Man or woman up to what you did. Fess up. Say "I want you to know that I
have wronged you. I did commit infidelity (or whatever you did wrong)."
This is a blockbuster first step.
Fessing up to what you did is powerful emotional logic! It leads to
forgiveness much faster. If a friend of yours stands you up for a get
together and then lies about it, you will be more bothered by the lie
over time than the actual screw up. But if they screw up and admit it,
you can let it go much faster.
If you make taking responsibility for what you did your first step, you
will really get your ex's attention. It is something that emotionally
they need to hear. It works in lots of powerful ways. You
are acting like an adult.
By doing this you will clear the way for the next step, which is to
acknowledge the pain that you caused your ex by whatever you did wrong.
So you might say something like and I know that cheating on you made you
feel betrayed and all alone and like I didn't love you
Now you are mirroring or acknowledging the pain you think you caused
your ex by whatever you did wrong. You are making your ex feel heard and
understood emotionally. They will begin to believe you really do
understand how wrong you were. This is another important
step to the forgiveness process.
There are other steps to take in this one phone call to get your ex
back, but if you just take these first two with your ex before you get
to apologizing you will be much more likely to win them back. Before
they can take you back they need to release their bad feelings and
forgive you, and these two steps will help them get there much faster
than just saying I'm sorry.
If you want support getting
your ex back beginning with one 15 minute phone call using simple but proven
steps, you can check out The Immediate Reconnect Strategies here at
Get Your Love Back Now.
