One of the mistakes many people
make when trying to get their ex back is to say I'm sorry a thousand
times. There is nothing wrong with a good apology in many cases. But
saying I'm sorry over and over can actually cause your ex to move
further away from you.
Instead of apologizing endlessly, there are a few things to do that will
be much more effective. Starting with, don't say I'm sorry if you did
nothing wrong. If your ex just isn't that into you any more, maybe you
did nothing wrong. Apologizing can make you sound pathetic.
Next, if you did something wrong that you need to apologize for, that's
a good thing to understand. To get your ex back, you need to understand
what caused the break, and if it was something you did, you better be
ready to apologize for it.
However, before you apologize, you need to do a few things first or your
apology wont work. Lets say you had an affair and that's why you lost
your ex. You definitely did something wrong! But don't go saying I'm
sorry a hundred times. It wont work. Trust has been broken. Betrayal has
been experienced by your ex.
Before you say you're sorry a million times, do these smart steps first!
Own up to what you did. Admit it. Your ex needs to know at a basic
emotional level that you know what you did was wrong. So admit it. Don't
justify or try to explain your actions.
The next important step is almost always overlooked. And that is to get
your ex to vent. Venting allows your ex to get all their negative
feelings out, off their chest. So you must get them to and then let them
vent before you apologize.
Take both of those steps first and you are way ahead of the ball game.
After you admitted you did wrong and heard their feelings about it, they
can hear you. Now your apology can be heard and accepted.
So if your ex deserves an I'm sorry, make it a powerful one. And do that
by letting your ex vent and letting your ex hear you own up to what you
did wrong. That way, you may be able to get your ex back in hours or a
few days rather than waiting months hoping they'll cool down and forgive
you.
Action Steps:
Write out how you'd admit to
her you make some mistakes. Don't explain or justify your
mistakes, just say you made them!
How will you get your ex to vent?
Call and try it out!
There is obviously a ton more to this, but learning some proven steps can make a big difference in
getting your ex back fast. It can help you get them back in hours
instead of waiting months and hoping they will get over it eventually!
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ex back when they aren't that into you anymore, you can check out a complete 7
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